Esteem, Recreation

Does The Grass Have to be Greener?

Over the past fifteen years as a Childminder, I’ve had the opportunity to observe different age groups of children, all playing together. At the beginning of my career, I felt the need to structure and plan activities and to keep them all busily occupied.

Now, experience has shown me that children require as little adult intervention as possible, and more free choice and opportunities for spontaneous play.

This is when they have real fun and enjoy each other’s company, and when you hear real laughter and joy.

When we interfere or try to entertain them constantly, they don’t learn how to amuse themselves, and inevitably get bored when left to their own devices. This can lead to negative or positive attention seeking behaviours. 

Our children crave our time and attention and delight in any we offer. They look to us for acceptance that they are doing it the right way. But when it comes to play, there is no right or wrong way, so we can encourage them to do it their way.

Even if they are technically wrong, we can allow them to think for themselves and show them that we don’t mind. If they colour the grass purple when drawing a picture, then that’s okay, it’s their picture, we can approve of it exactly as they want it to be. The grass doesn’t have to be greener!

Show them that we don’t mind if they colour the grass purple!

There’s a time and a place for formal learning and fact finding and a time and a place for freedom, love, and acceptance. Our children won’t grow up believing the grass is purple, because we haven’t corrected them or criticised their picture when they were three years old. They’ll soon learn its green by themselves, if given the opportunity to play outside. But they will grow up to feel creative, confident and with a healthy level of self-esteem, when we give them the freedom to express themselves in way’s we don’t think are correct.

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Learning, Proactive Parenting

HOMEWORK FUN FOR EVERYONE!

Of course, we can make a cardboard dinosaur better than our five-year-old can, but where’s the fun in that, if they have to watch us?

Push our children to succeed or push them over the edge, it’s a fine line to tread?

Knowing how far to push them and when, is unique to each parent and child.

It’s something that intuitively and instinctively we come to know, the more proactive and involved we become in their learning and behaviour.

It’s natural we want our children to do well at school but if we become too involved and take -over, we miss the point of what the learning objective is.

Teachers also have a good understanding of our children’s ability, more than we do.

When children are set homework projects at school, the whole point of the exercise is for our children to learn something by doing it themselves. Hopefully while enjoying the process as much as they can.

As well-meaning parents, sometimes it can be hard to let our children do this for themselves and easier for us to do it for them.

Yes, maybe it does feel rewarding, watching our children parading our elaborate creations on the school yard?

And naturally, seeing how proud our children feel doing so, makes us feel good?

But do we want our children to feel proud of our efforts or their own?

Teachers want to see what the children can create and what they’ve learnt in the process, not what we are capable of. 

Teachers also have a good understanding of our children’s ability, more than we do. They’ll know that it’s our work not our children’s, if we produce an artistic masterpiece or solve an almost unsolvable equation.

It’s getting messy and having fun in the process that counts.

Of course, we can make a cardboard dinosaur better than our five-year-old can, but where’s the fun in that, if they have to watch us?

They don’t care how perfect it looks. It’s getting messy and having fun in the process that counts. We can still help if our children are finding something challenging, but stepping back at times maybe a good idea?

Sometimes, it can be possible to be a bit too present as parents!

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TO DO OR NOT TO DO?

Surely, none of us would have chosen to become parents in the first place, had we thought we would end up angry, frustrated, nagging, stressed out, sleep deprived, nervous wrecks?

WHAT HAPPENED?

We become parents with the sole intention of enjoying every moment with our children, and to love, cherish and appreciate the joy they bring.

Ok, admittedly before our bundles of joy arrived, we envisioned a beautifully decorated nursery, where our new arrival would sleep like a baby, peacefully through the night.

We never thought as far as the colic, teething, bedwetting, sleepless nights, and the crayon all over the walls, or the bombsite a toddler would create, in their once beautiful bedroom.

And it’s doubtful any of us could have imagined tantrums in the supermarket and brawls on the playground, as we daydreamed of building sand castles at the beach and sunny days playing in the park?

But have our children let us down, or have we all just been naively seduced by the notion of what parenting should be like?

The truth is parenting can be a joyous experience full of fun times together, but like any other relationship, it does take a lot of time and patience to build rewarding, loving relationships with our children.

It doesn’t matter what parenting tools or techniques we use, or how much advice we receive from others, without enough time to devote to our children, it’s all worthless and ineffective.

The good news, however, is that it only takes time to build those happy, healthy, and successful relationships with our children.

But we have to make the time for it.


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Having too many things on our ‘to do list’ takes our time and attention away from our children.

We would certainly all be more effective and more relaxed parents, if we did not have so many plates spinning in the air. The frustration arises, when we try to keep all those plates in the air and the inevitable happens, we drop a few.

As our children are those closest to us, they’re naturally more loving and forgiving than anyone or anything else in our life.

We certainly can put them off a lot easier than we can our Boss or our Tax Return. Sadly, for those reasons they are the ones who suffer the most when we are busy doing too many other things.

Even when we are spending time with our children, all too often we tend to still be thinking of past work or relationship issues, or fretting about the future, instead of concentrating on them.

Understandably with our busy schedules and hectic lifestyles, our minds can and do easily wander from the trivia of our children’s conversations or complaints, to our more pressing grown up issues.

We will all be more efficient and effective parents though if, we learn how to streamline our commitments. For parenting to run smoothly, we have to be organised, but too many diaries, schedules, plans and to do lists, just keeps us constantly busy.

Seeing in black and white everything everyone else wants us to do, and how much has to be done, can feel daunting. And putting a slot in our diaries for our children’s ‘Us Time’ can easily get lost.

The less plates we have spinning, the less breakages we are responsible for, so it’s time to drop those ‘Time Takers’ once and for all.

Keeping one diary and one intention for the day; to be happy spending time doing what we love, with those we love most, is all we really need.

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New Year -Time for You


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U Time

It’s a fresh New year loaded with new and exciting opportunities.

A time to reflect on the last year and to plan ahead for the new.

Yet for most, New Year’s resolutions have usually faded before they’ve had a chance to begin, and by the second week of January, it’s back to the same old same old.

As parents we are usually tired, skint and left cleaning up the mess from all the festivities.

But there’s one New Year’s resolution we need to make to ourselves and keep.

U Time.

U Time is exactly that, time for ‘You.’

 ‘You’ are the most important person in your child’s life.

Anyone who has ever flown on an aeroplane will be familiar with the safety drill, where the Stewardess asks you to make sure you put on your own safety vest and masks, before your children’s or anyone else’s.

As parents, we should never neglect or underestimate the importance of time for ourselves, each and every day.


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Whether it’s a soak in the bath listening to a good audio book or committing to fifteen minutes of Kundalini Yoga every morning or evening, we need to set aside time to indulge ourselves.

New Year often reeks of restraint and less of self- indulgence, but taking care of ‘You’ is the most selfless thing you can do as a parent. It’s a priority because if you don’t, then you won’t be able to care for your child or anyone else.

It’s the single, most loving thing we can do for our children.

We are their greatest asset in life, so we must take good care of our own health and happiness. Should we become ill, we would not be in a position to care for them.

 Surely then, if only to keep us in a strong position to take care of our children at all times, U Time is essential, and all the motivation we need to ensure we love and care for ourselves? 

We are not being selfish by taking care of our own needs before anyone else’s. Yet many of us selfless parents still think it’s ok to put the needs of others, especially our children’s, before our own.

But, if we can’t stick to a simple routine of taking time out for ourselves to relax and recuperate, then how can we expect our children to do the same and follow their routines?

If we take care of our own needs and wellbeing and pursue our own interests, then not only our own happiness, health, and success will be positively affected, but noticeably our children’s too.

A happy parent, equals a happy, contented child.

How will you be spending your U Time today?

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Your Child is the Present~ Enjoy the Gift!

Hi, welcome and thanks for joining the Happy Childcare Club!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

My name is Emma Grant.


I’m a proud Mum of two beautiful children, Auntie to 9, Godparent to 10 and Registered Childminder to many!

You could say I’m blessed to be surrounded by little people?

For the past 15 years, alongside my husband Paul, I have been privileged to look after many wonderful, unique, children. And work with some amazing parents.

That’s why I’m so passionate about, helping parents and children to consciously connect with one another. Helping them to enjoy their time in the Present Moment together, while appreciating the Gift of Parenthood, we’ve been blessed with.

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I’m also a Hypnotherapist, Coach, Nutritional Therapist and keen Writer, with an interest in the Spirituality, Self help, Personal Growth and Development fields.