Push our children to succeed or push them over the edge, it’s a fine line to tread?
Knowing how far to push them and when, is unique to each parent and child.
It’s something that intuitively and instinctively we come to know, the more proactive and involved we become in their learning and behaviour.
It’s natural we want our children to do well at school but if we become too involved and take -over, we miss the point of what the learning objective is.
When children are set homework projects at school, the whole point of the exercise is for our children to learn something by doing it themselves. Hopefully while enjoying the process as much as they can.
As well-meaning parents, sometimes it can be hard to let our children do this for themselves and easier for us to do it for them.
Yes, maybe it does feel rewarding, watching our children parading our elaborate creations on the school yard?
And naturally, seeing how proud our children feel doing so, makes us feel good?
But do we want our children to feel proud of our efforts or their own?
Teachers want to see what the children can create and what they’ve learnt in the process, not what we are capable of.
Teachers also have a good understanding of our children’s ability, more than we do. They’ll know that it’s our work not our children’s, if we produce an artistic masterpiece or solve an almost unsolvable equation.
Of course, we can make a cardboard dinosaur better than our five-year-old can, but where’s the fun in that, if they have to watch us?
They don’t care how perfect it looks. It’s getting messy and having fun in the process that counts. We can still help if our children are finding something challenging, but stepping back at times maybe a good idea?
Sometimes, it can be possible to be a bit too present as parents!