It’s those everyday acts of love, such as, cooking tea and chatting about their day, that strengthens the bond we share with our children.
Expressing our love a little longer than expected reinforces our love.
Next time try hugging your child a couple of minutes longer than usual and feel the love transmitted back and forth. That’s our bonds strengthening and reconnecting us to one another.
Sometimes, stuff happens in life and we may find ourselves parted from our children, whether through work, divorce, illness or whatever else.
In those circumstances it’s vital we look for ways to get back together, as soon as possible and reconnect, repairing any bonds.
If not, our children could look elsewhere for comfort and support and may turn to the wrong people or past times in our absence.
As parents, we sometimes worry that we won’t get parenting right. Believing that someone else such as a partner, grandparent, aunty, foster carer, child-minder, nursery worker or teacher will do a better job of loving or raising our children the right way.
The truth is, no one could ever do a better job than you can, at loving your child.
It’s not what happens in life that’s the problem, it’s how we choose to deal with what happens.
Problems and disagreements are part and parcel of parenting, which we can’t eliminate, but we can learn how to deal with and overcome them.
Offering a reassuring hug, kiss or smile, is all it takes to repair a chink in the chain of love that connects us.
Disagreements will always occur in loving relationships but if we take action to resolve things as soon as possible, and are willing and able to work through issues with our children, we strengthen our bonds.
We can’t just set aside an hour a day as part of the U URSELF routine, to show our children how much we love them, then forget to maintain that connection for the other twenty-three hours of the day.
It’s constant connections that keep bonds strong.
Work, bills and other daily worries won’t disappear. They will always be there demanding our attention, but without time and energy, those loving bonds could gradually start to dissolve over time. The good news is, bonds are harder to make than they are to break, and fortunately being related instantly bonds us to our children.
We just have to Stay Present!